We read through one role playing game and decided to think of it as a fun challenge to try once a week. What the hell. But when we got home, we doubted we could really make it through a full scene pretending to be these characters? Some of the cards would take more imagination than we thought, which had us shaking our heads, feeling stupid for buying the damn thing. I mean, how is he going to be a firefighter rescuing me without renting an expensive uniform or spending more money on a silly Halloween costume? We aren't actors. Neither of us were even in a school play, so the idea of suspending disbelief far enough to get turned on seemed like too much. But then, for the sake of all that is sexy and fun, we gave it a shot and I drew a different card. Sure there were a few laughs in the beginning, but when we committed to it, it was hot. Seriously. That silly handyman/housewife card I drew got sexy real fast. How? The element of surprise. Making sure he was reacting, not acting was the key.
We watched a movie, cleaned up for the night, and then he left to walk the dog. I came up with a couple of twists to surprise him that kicked all humor out of the game. I will say that when he changed into the requested jeans and tank top before he went for the walk, I was a little turned on just by his commitment to the effort. It was all the motivation I needed to go for it. I inserted the Lelo pleasure beads that I got years ago and never use. My doctor recommends them to women over thirty-five, believe it or not, to keep things tight down below. I threw on a sundress with nothing underneath and took out the little box we keep hidden away with all the fun toys we've amassed over the years. Again - many things we rarely use.
When he came in from his usual nightly chore, I went for it. I thanked him for coming, as if he were a stranger, and led him into the bedroom. I didn't let any of our life creep in and ruin it, even when the dog came running into our room I simply directed him out and closed the door. I told him I had something that was stuck and I needed him to take a look before my husband came home. He smiled. I showed him the box of toys and said there may be something in there that could help. When he asked what was stuck, with a smirk again, I lifted my skirt and showed him the pull string to the beads insided. Boom. The little surprise and tease set-up the game. He had a goal that was more than just, "show me your hammer," and I had foreplay. Needless to say, the rest was just as fun. It was a matter of using what we had and thinking up something unexpected.
Don't worry, if Mondays really don't work, you can fit it in any day. It's the effort that counts. Try your own version of Handyman and Housewife. Turn the tables and have him be the Husband calling the Repair Expert. You don't have to assume the old-fashioned heterosexual roles at all. This would work for any couple. You just have to set the tone, the scene and bring the fun.