We've all been told "practice makes perfect" but could that really apply to sex? Is perfect really the right word when it comes to sex? The idea that practice will eventually make you "good" at something may work when applied to an instrument or a sport, but sex is not homework. It's a bullshit mantra we hold because so many advice columns, sex books, and articles about ‘Ten Ways To Blow Her Mind In Bed’ insist on peddling the myth that everyone likes the same thing. You don’t owe it to any hypothetical future partner to be the best you can be in bed. Everyone is different in bed. You can't pick people who don’t matter to help you perfect your techniques so that you can wow the love of your life someday. The real question, is what are you practicing ? What's the goal? Is there some sex competition that I didn't know you could enter? Are there skills and techniques you need to know in order to pass a shagging exam? Is this hard work going to pay off ten years down the line when you meet someone who refuses to sleep with you unless he can see your Doctorate in lovemaking? No? Then what are you practicing for?
I came across this article by Kaylen Jackson and had to share it. There are so many myths about a man's member and yet we gals don't always sit around talking about them... believe or not fellas (wink wink). Honestly, I don't know how you walk around with those things... they literally (sometimes) have a mind of their own. I guess the best way to harness the power is to understand them better though. So take a look... and then maybe you'll feel a little more confident about these mysterious creatures.
The Penis CAN Break
Believe it or not, even though the penis isn’t a bone, it can break. A “break” is most often called a “penile fracture” and can happen during rough sex or even vigorous masturbation. A penile fracture happens when the tough, fibrous tissue around the penis experiences sudden trauma, and a cracking sound is often heard – along with immediately losing the erection and a large bruise appearing very quickly. This condition requires immediate medical treatment.
Erections Can Be Random
Most of the time, an erection happens when the penis is either physically stimulated or a man becomes psychologically aroused. However, erections can be completely random and can happen when a man is being neither physically or psychologically stimulated sexually. As embarrassing as it is, a man can have an erection at the most inopportune times, such as at a funeral. The next time your man pops a boner, it may not be because the hot girl you thought he was looking at – it might be “just because!”
The Average Penis Size Is Actually Quite Small
Men are obsessed with their penis size – they usually think that theirs is too small, or much smaller than the general populations. The truth is, the average size is just 5-6″ in length! While many men may think that they can’t please a woman with a 5″ penis, the reality is that they can – and the majority of men do! Large penises are actually fairly rare, and size really isn’t that big a deal to a woman. The man who holds the record for the largest penis (over 13″) lives at home with his mother – so really, size doesn’t matter.
The Way It Looks Is Not Genetic
A man may think that he passes on the size of his penis and the way it looks to his sons, but the way it looks and even how long or wide it is has nothing to do with the way his father’s looks. A man’s penis is formed within the womb, when the body begins turning an androgynous fetus into either a boy or girl. Similarly, the way a woman’s vagina looks has nothing to do with the way her mother’s looked either.
Most Men Do Not Need Large Sized Condoms
Because the average penis size is about 5 to 6 inches, most men do not need large or “Magnum” sized condoms. However, many men buy large condoms because they either want to think they have a bigger one or they want their partner to believe that they do because they brought extra large condoms to bed. The truth is, the far majority of men can fit just fine in a regular sized condom and if they do, they should use it. Using a condom that is too large can cause it to slip off, increasing the risk of unwanted pregnancy or the transmission of STD’s.
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If you need a little more encouragement check out the film "A Wink And A Smile" by Deirdre Allen Timmons. It follows ten ordinary women learning the art of the striptease as they dive into the glamorous world of burlesque. Instead of just focusing on the nudity of striptease this doc focuses on the woman themselves... why they want to do burlesque, their fears, body issues, etc. It's a fun film to watch with your girlfriends with a bottle of wine and some feather boas. It just might make you want to sign up for the next round of classes too!
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