So can writers find a way to open readers up a little more? I found a couple of studies where women were asked what they fantasize about and the results were similar so I complied them for you. As women start to open up more about their sexual desires, maybe it will be easier to incorporate their popular fantasies into romantic fiction. Funny side note: When men were asked what women fantasize about overwhelmingly their answers involve long walks on the beach, flowers and slow loving sex. While woman like these as well, they also have sexual fantasies just as wild as men do. So next time you're thinking sexual thoughts, feel free to share them with your partner.... or your favorite authors. *wink wink*
Number 10: Strangers in the night
Many women relish the idea of meeting up with a mystery man and going to some no-name motel for a wild night of uninhibited sex. This exists in many romance novels in all forms, but most commonly a girl meets a guy in a bar and they leave together.
Number 9: Group Sex
Group sex is a popular one among the ladies, but it's not used very often in romance novels. Generally contemporary romance and even new erotica typically consist of one man and on woman at a time. There are often multiple partners through the book, but not in the same scene. In the real world fantasy women say, "The freedom of being nude in front of a bunch of people who are equally exposed, allowing different men and women to touch and penetrate your body simultaneously is incredibly erotic."
Number 8: Who's your daddy?
If there's one thing that women are dying to do, it's dominate a man like never before. The creative ideas that flowed from this topic were quite interesting, to say the least. They included: spanking him, ordering him to perform certain sexual acts, making him beg for what he wants, and having him suck on their stiletto heels or some other phallic object. These are playful games that appear in a lot of erotica novels that are quite popular. The idea of dominating one's partner is always a tempting undercurrent in steamy sexual tension.